It's been over four years that I've been clean of drugs, alcohol and opiates. Many people on a weekly basis ask me how my life is now that I'm healthy. It would take more than one article to tell you everything, but I can tell you a few things that I have learned from my addiction and my road to sobriety.
With the epidemic of opiate abuse affecting many families around the world, many people are looking for help. I have provided numerous ways for people to reach out to me for support. I get many questions and my fair share of "thank you's", but it is important to note that giving back is my greatest accomplishment of my sobriety. I've always been average when it comes to most activities, but one remarkable talent I've come to cherish is my ability to help others in need. I feel the power of listening without judging, is one of my greatest traits.
Being a former addict myself, I understand and can relate to what other addicts are going through. Just being an ear for someone to talk to can be extremely helpful. Many say addiction is a selfish act and I completely agree. Unfortunately though, once addiction takes a grasp on someone's life, they are at the mercy of the drug. The power of listening without judgement is something I feel is very important for addicts. They are sick of their addiction, and more importantly sick of hurting the ones around them. Addiction causes many problems in people's lives, and usually the ones who suffer the most are their friends, family and loved ones. A lot of times their family has gotten fed up with them, and the addicts don't have anyone to talk to. Being an ear that listens without judgement can be so important for an addict looking to change their life. That is one reason I created http://www.FreeFromHell.com, which is a free social networking website for addicts and families seeking comfort and support.
I've been given a gift of a healthy recovery and an even larger gift of being able to help those in need. I have learned that it is as simple as listening to a complete stranger's worries and thoughts that may save their life. The thought of influencing someone so much that they thank you for saving them has been a huge blessing in my life. There is no greater feeling in the world for someone to thank me for listening.
During the time in which my world collapsed from my addiction, I thought it was going to be the end of my life. It actually turned out to be the beginning of the life I was supposed to live. Most people I speak to believe their lives are too far gone and that there is no hope for recovery. Many addicts feel they will never be able to live a happy life and have already caused too much damage to fix it. This could not be further from the truth. Every single one of us has value. You have lived through a terrible situation and when you break free, your knowledge can help save others. Never sell your life short because you can't foresee the future. Your calling may be right around the corner. They say when one door closes another opens. Once you are free from opiates and drugs, your mind will be much more clear to see the opportunities around you.
People have so much going on in their lives that they create unnecessary stress. When I first got clean I learned about living in the present moment. You can not change your past so do not dwell on it, and you can not tell the future so don't worry about it. All you can do is focus on the only moment you really have control of which is now. You can set goals of course for your future, but do not look too far ahead. Never take away the time you have right now, because you never know how much time you have left.
My life is amazing now. I am married to a beautiful woman and have a gorgeous 5 month old son. I work my tail off on two jobs and most importantly I am happy. I remember going through withdrawals and thinking that I would never be happy again without my pills. That could not be further from the truth. I have never been happier than I am today and I owe that to my addiction and the lessons that sobriety have taught me.