It has been 4 years and 10 months since I last used opiates. The journey from the beginning until now has been long and amazing. I have made a very nice life for myself and am happy with the way things turned out. I have the ability to work hard for my family and to help thousands of people a year that come to me for advice or just looking for someone to be a friend while they go through their journey to sobriety.
During my time in recovery, I have noticed many trends and things that pop up for the majority of users. We all at some point realized that the drugs had taken control of our life, and that we needed to stop using if we wanted to survive. That is a feeling that can not be explained or felt unless you have lived through it.
Countless people have contacted me during the past 4+ years to talk about addiction and the tons of related topics that spawn from it. Typically a conversation begins with me asking a few simple questions about what they have been using, how much and for how long. You can get a pretty good foundation by those three questions as to where they are in their life of addiction. After those questions are answered I like for them to explain to me in as much detail who they are and what they want out of life. I'm curious as to why they are using the drugs, how it started and why they believe they can or can not stop using,
While the person is explaining to me all the details I asked, I get to see who the person is on the inside. When you use drugs, specifically opiates for a long period of time, you lose a sense of yourself. You become numb to so many aspects of life and begin to hide like a recluse. When I ask someone to explain to me who they are before using, it's as they are two separate people. Many look back on their life before they were opiate addicts, and this is where they want to be again. They want to be clean and free of addiction. Most are upset with how far their addiction has grown, and feel as if they can never be happy again.
I love to talk to people who really want to get clean. It inspires me to hear the desire to live a clean life and to leave the life of abuse behind. They are tired of being an addict day in and day out. They just want to live again, free from their addiction. What most addicts don't realize is that their past is gone. It can never come back and I explain to them to let the past go. You will never live like you used to. You need to reevaluate your life and learn to live for today. You are now in control of your life. You can seek the professional help you need, you can do it yourself, or you can do it a many different ways, but you have to want your sobriety more than anything you have ever wanted in your life because it's going to be a challenge.
Nothing in the world, besides the love I have for my son and wife, can compare to when someone thanks me for just listening to them. They have become so deep in their addiction and are at a horrible place in their life they just want someone to talk to who can relate. I talk with so many people each year that often I don't hear back from individuals right away. So when I get phone call or text from people who are now comfortable with where they are in recovery and are happy, it gets me emotional every time. Hearing people happy with their sober life is why helping people is so important to me. If you every need someone to talk to, please hit me up: firstname.lastname@example.org